Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Single Parenting Woes and Pleasures

I became a single mom when my kids were just two and three years old. I blamed the man who left us and the woman he left us for for breaking up my family. It took years of struggling to finally get comfortable in my new position as head of the household. I struggled with finances, grief over my loss, raising two unpotty-trained boys alone. Through all the problems I had I came to the realization that life is what you make is. (I think that is a quote)

There are plenty of losses on the way to raising these children of ours. But there are a few pleasures I would have problems giving up if I ever had the chance to get married again.

1.) I get my own bed. I would have to share it with a man, who may or may not smell or snore.

2.) Being single, there is no one around to have disagreements with over finances.

3.) I get to take care of myself.  While being an at home mom, there was never time or money for me to go get a hair-cut or to go buy a pair of jeans.

Point is, after my divorce my family unit was changed and a little lost for a time. Now after a few years, I have developed my own family unit, yes it is without a dad, but it can still work. We still love and take care of each other.

Being single is a time to look at your life and decide who you are. Re-define yourself, then re-define your family unit. That is what this blog will be about. A place to share. Share our stories, our troubles, our tricks to surviving. Please pay special attention to the needs of others in the Chit-chat room. Share your needs and the needs of others you know who are struggling. There are those of us in this network of single parents who can meet your needs.

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